Were you an angry person before you had kids? Chances are, no. You were patient. Easygoing, even. So why does it feel like someone swapped you out for a different woman the moment you became a mum — one who shouts, slams doors, then sits on the bathroom floor wondering who she's become?
Sound familiar? You've probably already tried the deep breaths. The bath. The gentle parenting Instagram posts. And yet here you are, still googling "why am I so angry all the time." So what's actually going on?
Here's the thing — what if your anger isn't the problem at all? What if it's actually trying to tell you something?
For one hour, psychotherapeutic counsellor and mum of two Becky Selbie will help you get underneath the rage — not to make you feel worse about it, but to help it finally make sense. Why does it show up now, when it never used to? Where's it really coming from? And what would it mean to stop treating it as evidence that you're failing?
This isn't therapy, and it definitely isn't another list of things to try before bed. It's calm, honest, no-judgement support from someone who's stood exactly where you're standing.
You'll come away with:
A clearer picture of why your anger builds now, when it never used to — and why that was never really your fault
A simple way to spot what's quietly draining your capacity before the rage hits
The start of an answer to that question you don't say out loud: what if something's wrong with me? (Spoiler: nothing is.)
Who it's for: any woman who's sick of being the "shouty mum" and wants to actually understand why it's happening — not just be told to breathe through it.
Join us live online for what will be a brilliantly insightful 1 hour session.
Becky Selbie is a UKCP-registered psychotherapeutic counsellor and the founder of (m)otherway, a maternal mental health practice for mothers who look like they're holding it all together — and are quietly falling apart underneath. Trained in Transactional Analysis, Becky works with the "unconscious rule book": the internal rules that helped you succeed before children, and are now working against you. She's a mum of two who wasn't always an angry woman herself — she built (m)otherway from her own experience of watching that shift happen, and figuring out why.